what is god for you?

esse vanderbruggen (right)
date of birth.
place of birth.
duffel, belgium
today is not about everything.
vincent bruyninckx (left)
date of birth.
place of birth.
bonheiden, belgium
barista, circus artist

mig. in the video you were asked what god is for you. is there something you wish to add?
ev. although i know that god for me is more of a concept, i feel that because i was raised as a catholic for me there is always this item in the back of my head that follows me. there is always something that i feel responsible for, i feel a little bit watched. and although i don’t want it, i think i do believe in it somehow, like a brainwash. but for me rationally god is much more an abstract thing like karma. i know that when i do something wrong i feel obliged to make it right.
vb. my mom is a catholic, and i see it helps her a lot, when she’s in a bad situation she gets a lot of power from it. if something good happens she beliefs is because she prayed for it. i grew up with this, so it was always normal, but now that you asked me this question i started to think about what it means for me, instead of what they always told me, for the first time. i’d love to believe, to be able to thank something for the good things that happen to you.

mig. is the word god controversial for you? if yes why?
ev. not really, to me god isn’t controversial in itself. but when it’s linked to a certain religion then it becomes controversial. everyone has his/her own interpretation of it, and it’s hard to accept other people’s view on this really personal thing. i don’t want to be influenced by other people’s view on god.
vb. no. i have my image of how it should be.

mig. do you think of religion when you hear the word god? if yes, why?
vb. yes.
ev. it depends who it comes from, and the context of how it’s used.

mig. do you believe everything happens for a reason, or are we the reason why things happen?
ev. ah, i want to illustrate this answer with a nice story. i was graduated in brussels, my parents live in minderhout and antwerp is right in the middle. at one point i was a little bit sad, looking for a job. then i woke up one day and it was sunny and i thought “i’ll find a job today, doesn’t matter what, but first i’m gonna buy myself a present”. so i went to a secondhand shop, walked in and saw a coffee bar in this secondhand shop, and vincent was there helping them start out their bar. so i bought myself this present and left again. the next time i came there i asked them if they needed someone to work there, turns out they did, and the rest is history haha. so vincent does circus, i’m an actor, we happen to know a lot of the same people but we didn’t know each other before. so our worlds were already connected from very different angles, but if i didn’t wake up that day feeling like i needed a change, and going to this shop, and if he hadn’t been there helping out, it’s all these little things coming together.
vb. i think it’s beautiful to believe that this isn’t coincidence.
ev. yes, that’s what i meant, that it all happened for a reason.

mig. define love. what does love mean for you?
vb. a friendship is also love for me, and it can be for people, or things.
ev. for me it’s like a bubble, and within this bubble you share something with someone. the bubble is around people, and inside this bubble you share your energy with someone. there are lots of ways to love, it’s always an emersion, you give, you get, you act. love is a two-way energy, what you receive makes your love already different again.

mig. do you think love is something all life forms share?
ev. hmm, i’m not sure, i think in nature things are very practical, and i believe ‘love’ is only there when you’re conscious of it. maybe there’s also something like love in babies and animals but then it’s more practical like ‘i will protect you’ or something. but if you look at swans, they stick together for their entire life, if one of them dies the other one stays alone.
vb. i don’t think so.

mig. what in your opinion can make a relationship last a whole lifetime?
vb. being honest to each other, and talk talk talk. very good communication, even if you have bad feelings, or if you feel something about the relationship, just talk about it. maybe the other person feels exactly the same, and then there might not be a problem at all.
ev. well, i feel exactly the same but i would like to add that it’s very important to change with each other, not for each other. because then it goes wrong.

mig. what have you learned about life so far?
vb. well, everything that is happening now is new for me, like this relationship. before i had a few girlfriends, but all the feelings that i have now, and to want to see this person a lot is all new for me.
ev. i’ve learned that tomorrow i will look back onto today and think ‘man yesterday you didn’t know anything about life’. everything is new all the time, and in the end you don’t know anything.

mig. how would you describe us/humanity today?
vb. very materialistic, and very technology-minded.
ev. i think we’re all part of this big system of which nobody is the leader.
vb. yeah, everybody has to participate in this system with rules and guides like you have to be successful and rich, but that isn’t what will make you happy.
ev. yes, humanity is like a big group of sheep, and we just follow each other without thinking, and the shepherds are also sheep.

thank you esse vanderbruggen & vincent bruyninckx for participating in the 'mig' project.

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  1. Dorothy

    I agree! What a gorgeous couple!

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